Is it normal for a guy to have lustful thoughts when he is "romancing" with his girl but at the end of the day,you still love her as much as you do? Is it healthy to have that kind of relationship or not?
normal what..for guys..but if over time u find that ur love disappears n only lust remains...then u know the ans liao..
All humans have lust. Just how strong and how well you can control. I will say dont play with the girl if you dont like her.
well the guy's not playing the girl,that's for sure....and definitely the guy does really love her alot and is even willing to bring her to see his parents and the intention of spending the rest of his life with her...so to all of you,what's lust and love to you?
Lust = sexual desire
Love = Intention of spending the rest of his life with her ? and ya everything else...
so do u consider lust-ing normal?
U dont love her - that is the truth, sooner u reconcile to this the better for u and her. Lust is not love and though sex is healthy between two consenting adults - sexuality is neurosis and sickness! Sex is of the body, sexuality is of the mind.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:U dont love her - that is the truth, sooner u reconcile to this the better for u and her. Lust is not love and though sex is healthy between two consenting adults - sexuality is neurosis and sickness! Sex is of the body, sexuality is of the mind.
so why do u say i don't love her? and why do you consider "sexuality is neurosis and sickness"?
Lust and love cannot coexist. If it does it would sooner derail. love shares, love gives, love respects the other and allows the other to be ... sex and love can exist - sex cannot ''improve'' one's love for another, however love for the other may ''improve'' sex. sexuality is psychological - it is having thoughts about sex, fantasising and so on so forth and usually based on some past ... eg from book, movies ..... one can add on.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:Lust and love cannot coexist. If it does it would sooner derail. love shares, love gives, love respects the other and allows the other to be ... sex and love can exist - sex cannot ''improve'' one's love for another, however love for the other may ''improve'' sex. sexuality is psychological - it is having thoughts about sex, fantasising and so on so forth and usually based on some past ... eg from book, movies ..... one can add on.
but look at it in a different perspective,without lust in the first place like for e.g. Looks,hot bod,etc. ,will a relationship even start? i'm not saying i love someone for her hot bod,i just love her for who she is as the "feeling of love" is there...
Originally posted by Fugazzi:Lust and love cannot coexist. If it does it would sooner derail. love shares, love gives, love respects the other and allows the other to be ... sex and love can exist - sex cannot ''improve'' one's love for another, however love for the other may ''improve'' sex. sexuality is psychological - it is having thoughts about sex, fantasising and so on so forth and usually based on some past ... eg from book, movies ..... one can add on.
I think you are taking lust to be too serious. Like a sickness. If you love someone, you need to have the basic lust. Therefore they can coexist. And love is unquantifiable and subjective. It comes down to what you believe.
Originally posted by TTFU:I think you are taking lust to be too serious. Like a sickness. If you love someone, you need to have the basic lust. Therefore they can coexist. And love is unquantifiable and subjective. It comes down to what you believe.
somehow i agree with you,it really does comes down to what we believe
Originally posted by A.T.R:Is it normal for a guy to have lustful thoughts when he is "romancing" with his girl but at the end of the day,you still love her as much as you do? Is it healthy to have that kind of relationship or not?
Define Lust and Love first.
If we read your definition and find that they are actually the same thing as Lust! Then we will dip you into an chocolate fondue until you drown!
Then you can come and tell us if it is healthy or funny or not ok?
Provided your internet connection is working in Hell .....
If u can relate to what u are - u can relate to anybody and eventually let it evolve into a relationship. Of course, when one looks for eg, looks, hot body, then it is seeking out another to fufil oneself. In other words, one is looking to use the other as a means to one's ends! That is insulting the other and insulting oneself. I am not in any way implying that u are like that or .. but rather pointing out the the fallacy of many equating lust, infatuation, needs, expectations and erroneously misinterpreting them as love.
The quality of life and in this instance,relationships, is in the ability to relate and it permeates all aspects of one's daily life - eg, be it a workplace, school, family ... it presupposes one is able to relate to what one is.
Originally posted by parn:
Define Lust and Love first.If we read your definition and find that they are actually the same thing as Lust! Then we will dip you into an chocolate fondue until you drown!
Then you can come and tell us if it is healthy or funny or not ok?
Provided your internet connection is working in Hell .....
my definition of lust would be tat its the desire for sex
love to me its a feeling i cannot describe,its something tat motivates u bcos of the ones u love,u'll yearn for it,u can't live without the one u live,its smth that makes life more meaningful...
Originally posted by Fugazzi:If u can relate to what u are - u can relate to anybody and eventually let it evolve into a relationship. Of course, when one looks for eg, looks, hot body, then it is seeking out another to fufil oneself. In other words, one is looking to use the other as a means to one's ends! That is insulting the other and insulting oneself. I am not in any way implying that u are like that or .. but rather pointing out the the fallacy of many equating lust, infatuation, needs, expectations and erroneously misinterpreting them as love.
The quality of life and in this instance,relationships, is in the ability to relate and it permeates all aspects of one's daily life - eg, be it a workplace, school, family ... it presupposes one is able to relate to what one is.
Fugazzi,it may not be the case whereby one looks for appearances and such to meet one's ends.....to me,it might seem tat u appreciate that certain someone with good looks and these factors(good looks,hot body ,etc...) might act as a catalyst to let urself make the first move...
Originally posted by A.T.R:Fugazzi,it may not be the case whereby one looks for appearances and such to meet one's ends.....to me,it might seem tat u appreciate that certain someone with good looks and these factors(good looks,hot body ,etc...) might act as a catalyst to let urself make the first move...
Ya, you furfil yourself when you are looking for these things, therefore ending it. Same as what he said
Ts - Intuitively this is your predicament.
Muse over this
A man is at the bar n another man walks up to him n asks him, "Are you Ernie Smith?"
The man says, 'yes"
The man then says, 'Were you in Boston a few days ago?'
Ernie says, "Just a min," n from his bag takes out a notebook, turns some pages, and then says, "Yes, I was a few days ago."
The man says, "Were you in rm 5?"
Ernie looks into his notebook n says, "Yes."
The man says, "Did you meet Mrs.Dorothy in rm 6?"
Ernie scans his eyes on his notebook n replies, "Yes."
The man says, "Tell me, did you make love to Mrs Dorothy?"
Ernie looks into notebook again, says, "Yes, I made love to Mrs. Dorothy."
The man says, "Well, I'm Dorothy's spouse n I don't like it."
Again, Ernie looks in his notebook and utters, "You know, that's funny. I didn't like it either."
This is what hearing is all about. One agrees perfectly, but one hears only what one wants to hear; one understands only what one wants to understand.
I cannot make you wrong nor can i make u rite. Life is a flux n it is not cast in stone! That is being un-nice. I merely offered views and opinions. If it does not resonate of u or with u lump it.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:Ts - Intuitively this is your predicament.
Muse over this
A man is at the bar n another man walks up to him n asks him, "Are you Ernie Smith?"
The man says, 'yes"
The man then says, 'Were you in Boston a few days ago?'
Ernie says, "Just a min," n from his bag takes out a notebook, turns some pages, and then says, "Yes, I was a few days ago."
The man says, "Were you in rm 5?"
Ernie looks into his notebook n says, "Yes."
The man says, "Did you meet Mrs.Dorothy in rm 6?"
Ernie scans his eyes on his notebook n replies, "Yes."
The man says, "Tell me, did you make love to Mrs Dorothy?"
Ernie looks into notebook again, says, "Yes, I made love to Mrs. Dorothy."
The man says, "Well, I'm Dorothy's spouse n I don't like it."
Again, Ernie looks in his notebook and utters, "You know, that's funny. I didn't like it either."This is what hearing is all about. One agrees perfectly, but one hears only what one wants to hear; one understands only what one wants to understand.
I cannot make you wrong nor can i make u rite. Life is a flux n it is not cast in stone! That is being un-nice. I merely offered views and opinions. If it does not resonate of u or with u lump it.
thank you Fugazzi,i'll take that in mind...=)
So is it the TS in agony? If not this thread is another chi chat category of thread right? so to make it useful tell me where prawn noodles serve bigh big prawns?
Originally posted by A.T.R:Is it normal for a guy to have lustful thoughts when he is "romancing" with his girl but at the end of the day,you still love her as much as you do? Is it healthy to have that kind of relationship or not?
If you don't lust mean you not guy lar.