I don't seem to be interested in anything
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One friend says it's mid life crisis. Another friend says it's depression.
Currently, everything goes well in my life. Good job, nice friends etc.
But I don't seem to be happy leh. I don't know what is bothering me.
I get bored with all the things I have even though I keep reminding myself to be happy and contented with everything and that I am a lucky person.
I try to have a bit of motivation by setting new goals. I thought I just need a push to feel more fulfilling. But I am just not interested in anything to set any new goals, new targets. I keep feeling "I've been there, done that. What is there new for me now?"
I notice that I smile less, laugh less. I feel physically tired easily. Everything I suggest to myself to do certain thing so as to feel less bored, I will always have a reason not to execute it eventually. Eg. If I think of doing window shopping, after a while, I will tell myself that it's so boring cuz I have done it so many times.
Things that I have not done before, I will feel lazy to try out.
I try going shopping, thinking that it should be interested. After all, shopping is all ladies favourite past time. I can walk the whole shopping mall and find nothing interesting or pretty enough. I don't have any motivation or push to make me buy anything. Makeup, nice dresses are all too boring to me these days. In the end, in the past couple of months, I totally never buy anything for myself, except toiletries and shampoo stuff that have run out at home.
Even if you show me the nicest thing, I will tell myself "no point" (ie. pointless to buy).
I constantly have this very lousy and sian feeling in me. I try keeping myself very very very busy at work. It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
Spending time with loved ones become too tiring for me.
In fact, last weekend, I literally sleep more than 15 hours each day. I wasn't tired. But I just didn't feel like doing anything.
I really dunno what is wrong with me.
Mid life crisis? -
tired...so is me...
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You mean physically tired? Or mentally?Originally posted by R3SsH|n:tired...so is me... -
u need something to spice up ur life....
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the body listens to the mind...if the mind is tired...so will the body...Originally posted by Honeybunz:You mean physically tired? Or mentally? -
Hmmm.
Looks like the first thing you need is to get your butt moving.
Repeat to yourself, everyday, phrases that will get you motivated, like umm,
"Today is a new day! Time to try new things!"
In time to come, you'll really believe in what you've been telling yourself everyday.
You're not so old, you have so many years ahead of you. You need to convince yourself that life is too long to be doing the same things for decades. Dare to step out of your current boundaries and do things you've never done nor thought of doing before.
Try to get friends to accompany you! It's easier to try out new things when your friends are with you. But if they refuse, convince yourself they'll lose out while you go enjoy your new life.
Say, maybe you're working as an executive in a bank earning alot of money. Maybe you can switch industries and work as a baker (albeit starting from scratch) or something. Serious! -
I got the same problem ... whatever i do, i feel that there is no meaning to it ... and like u ... i get mentally tired very easily ... keep sleeping like there is no tml Â… I guess is mid life crisis Â…
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i guess we sometimes have this time where we wonder what to do...
perhaps we need a goal in life, something to strive for...
what is important to you?
such questions need to be answered to know where we are going...
in the meantime, hey, from past posts, you sound really burnt out.. maybe take a LONG vacation or something.. go to Barcelona, look at the magnificent church designed by Gaudi...
hey.. next month, simsy is coming for a visit and a visit to the zoo is scheduled.. come along with us or something?
mostly, get out more, do more things until you find something you would like to do?
hope you get out of your rut soon.. -
Sounds a bit like what I was feeling some time back.Originally posted by Honeybunz:One friend says it's mid life crisis. Another friend says it's depression.
Currently, everything goes well in my life. Good job, nice friends etc.
But I don't seem to be happy leh. I don't know what is bothering me.
I get bored with all the things I have even though I keep reminding myself to be happy and contented with everything and that I am a lucky person.
I try to have a bit of motivation by setting new goals. I thought I just need a push to feel more fulfilling. But I am just not interested in anything to set any new goals, new targets. I keep feeling "I've been there, done that. What is there new for me now?"
I notice that I smile less, laugh less. I feel physically tired easily. Everything I suggest to myself to do certain thing so as to feel less bored, I will always have a reason not to execute it eventually. Eg. If I think of doing window shopping, after a while, I will tell myself that it's so boring cuz I have done it so many times.
Things that I have not done before, I will feel lazy to try out.
I try going shopping, thinking that it should be interested. After all, shopping is all ladies favourite past time. I can walk the whole shopping mall and find nothing interesting or pretty enough. I don't have any motivation or push to make me buy anything. Makeup, nice dresses are all too boring to me these days. In the end, in the past couple of months, I totally never buy anything for myself, except toiletries and shampoo stuff that have run out at home.
Even if you show me the nicest thing, I will tell myself "no point" (ie. pointless to buy).
I constantly have this very lousy and sian feeling in me. I try keeping myself very very very busy at work. It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
Spending time with loved ones become too tiring for me.
In fact, last weekend, I literally sleep more than 15 hours each day. I wasn't tired. But I just didn't feel like doing anything.
I really dunno what is wrong with me.
Mid life crisis?
Somehow I think it's like a 'Singaporean Curse'.. We've been so CONDITIONED to WORK.. CLEAR OBJECTIVES... ACHIEVE... And WORK the NEXT LEVEL.... It's like... We're ALMOST BRAINWASHED and 'PROGRAMMED' to work that way...
1st thing. I think you need to have GOALS in life... Find MEANING to LIFE as a WHOLE... Because ULTIMATELY you probably would be pondering yourself over such a question... It's just a matter of time....?
You need to be truthful to yourself. What REALLY interest you in life? Personally I think you're bound by certain set of 'rules' or 'beliefs'... Somehow it's like in denial? I'm not asking you to ALL HELL BREAK LOSE... Going for the EXTREMES... I'm just saying sometimes it's ok to be curious... Question around and find out more... If you're worried... Just remember that so long as you keep yourself within 'safety distance' from your wander off from 'mainstream' life, you should be relatively safe...? 'LIFE' itself is a relative set of 'GOLD'... It just depends on how you tackle and approach it....
You need to be truthful to yourself? Don't pour and fit yourself up with activities which you're really not that interested in and try to convince yourself that you're interested in them... 'You' are really not as stupid as you think it is.... Resentment naturally comes in....
I think it has been quite a while since we last met? If you still have my contact, perhaps you would like to meet and chat up sometimes? I personally think it's nice to chat up with someone you can chat with.... -
YOU NEED A MANOriginally posted by Honeybunz:One friend says it's mid life crisis. Another friend says it's depression.
Currently, everything goes well in my life. Good job, nice friends etc.
But I don't seem to be happy leh. I don't know what is bothering me.
I get bored with all the things I have even though I keep reminding myself to be happy and contented with everything and that I am a lucky person.
I try to have a bit of motivation by setting new goals. I thought I just need a push to feel more fulfilling. But I am just not interested in anything to set any new goals, new targets. I keep feeling "I've been there, done that. What is there new for me now?"
I notice that I smile less, laugh less. I feel physically tired easily. Everything I suggest to myself to do certain thing so as to feel less bored, I will always have a reason not to execute it eventually. Eg. If I think of doing window shopping, after a while, I will tell myself that it's so boring cuz I have done it so many times.
Things that I have not done before, I will feel lazy to try out.
I try going shopping, thinking that it should be interested. After all, shopping is all ladies favourite past time. I can walk the whole shopping mall and find nothing interesting or pretty enough. I don't have any motivation or push to make me buy anything. Makeup, nice dresses are all too boring to me these days. In the end, in the past couple of months, I totally never buy anything for myself, except toiletries and shampoo stuff that have run out at home.
Even if you show me the nicest thing, I will tell myself "no point" (ie. pointless to buy).
I constantly have this very lousy and sian feeling in me. I try keeping myself very very very busy at work. It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
Spending time with loved ones become too tiring for me.
In fact, last weekend, I literally sleep more than 15 hours each day. I wasn't tired. But I just didn't feel like doing anything.
I really dunno what is wrong with me.
Mid life crisis? -
Sounds like you are a workaholicOriginally posted by Honeybunz:It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
It's like me
I tell you when I"m on leave I get burdened with this sense of guilt that I don't enjoy my leave at all and it becomes stressful
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Originally posted by Honeybunz:One friend says it's mid life crisis. Another friend says it's depression.
Currently, everything goes well in my life. Good job, nice friends etc.
But I don't seem to be happy leh. I don't know what is bothering me.
I get bored with all the things I have even though I keep reminding myself to be happy and contented with everything and that I am a lucky person.
I try to have a bit of motivation by setting new goals. I thought I just need a push to feel more fulfilling. But I am just not interested in anything to set any new goals, new targets. I keep feeling "I've been there, done that. What is there new for me now?"
I notice that I smile less, laugh less. I feel physically tired easily. Everything I suggest to myself to do certain thing so as to feel less bored, I will always have a reason not to execute it eventually. Eg. If I think of doing window shopping, after a while, I will tell myself that it's so boring cuz I have done it so many times.
Things that I have not done before, I will feel lazy to try out.
I try going shopping, thinking that it should be interested. After all, shopping is all ladies favourite past time. I can walk the whole shopping mall and find nothing interesting or pretty enough. I don't have any motivation or push to make me buy anything. Makeup, nice dresses are all too boring to me these days. In the end, in the past couple of months, I totally never buy anything for myself, except toiletries and shampoo stuff that have run out at home.
Even if you show me the nicest thing, I will tell myself "no point" (ie. pointless to buy).
I constantly have this very lousy and sian feeling in me. I try keeping myself very very very busy at work. It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
Spending time with loved ones become too tiring for me.
In fact, last weekend, I literally sleep more than 15 hours each day. I wasn't tired. But I just didn't feel like doing anything.
I really dunno what is wrong with me.
Mid life crisis?
You need new stimuli to recharge your jaded perception of life.
Shopping is merely your perception of what a general group of woman may like - but I don't think you fit perfectly under that classification.
You need to break out from this routine if you desire to feel something different - afterall, you cannot do the same thing and expect a different result. If shopping doesn't even resolve this, then it must be something else.
Explore your alternatives and use initiative in your exploration, for chances are:
I) You may be emotionally empty.
II) You may be spiritually empty.
P.S: Lack of verve and energy may signify a retrograding/weak Mars transition/progression/nativity or Sun/Ascendant afflicted by Saturn. If you find this overwhelming, I suggest you get out of the country and go on a temporal retreat. The stress vibes in Singapore may not be good for the soul; seek serenity elsewhere.
Cheers -
Yea.. the Singaporean curse...
Do Sports ? Play badminton ? Or go for a short holiday abroad ? -
*ROLL EYES*Originally posted by Deportivo:YOU NEED A MAN -
feels the same way
Perhaps its because I have been in the same environment for way too long. Walked the fine line between darkness and light just for the excitement. But after a while, I get immuned to it.
oh well~ -
feeling moody again...
so sian -
awww... poor bunz
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I am more concerned with the highlighted...Originally posted by Honeybunz:One friend says it's mid life crisis. Another friend says it's depression.
Currently, everything goes well in my life. Good job, nice friends etc.
But I don't seem to be happy leh. I don't know what is bothering me.
I get bored with all the things I have even though I keep reminding myself to be happy and contented with everything and that I am a lucky person.
I try to have a bit of motivation by setting new goals. I thought I just need a push to feel more fulfilling. But I am just not interested in anything to set any new goals, new targets. I keep feeling "I've been there, done that. What is there new for me now?"
I notice that I smile less, laugh less. I feel physically tired easily. Everything I suggest to myself to do certain thing so as to feel less bored, I will always have a reason not to execute it eventually. Eg. If I think of doing window shopping, after a while, I will tell myself that it's so boring cuz I have done it so many times.
Things that I have not done before, I will feel lazy to try out.
I try going shopping, thinking that it should be interested. After all, shopping is all ladies favourite past time. I can walk the whole shopping mall and find nothing interesting or pretty enough. I don't have any motivation or push to make me buy anything. Makeup, nice dresses are all too boring to me these days. In the end, in the past couple of months, I totally never buy anything for myself, except toiletries and shampoo stuff that have run out at home.
Even if you show me the nicest thing, I will tell myself "no point" (ie. pointless to buy).
I constantly have this very lousy and sian feeling in me. I try keeping myself very very very busy at work. It is true that when I am loaded with works and deadlines, I feel slightly better. But once I clear all my work, and relax a little, the lousy feeling starts flowing into me. Then I have to find something to do again.
Spending time with loved ones become too tiring for me.
In fact, last weekend, I literally sleep more than 15 hours each day. I wasn't tired. But I just didn't feel like doing anything.
I really dunno what is wrong with me.
Mid life crisis?
I supposed you have nothing to look forward to after work? You may be lost in your "direction"? You feel like being stuck in a pool of mud and unable to get out? You feel you are sinking and also no way out? You feel like crying because no one truely understands you? You feel virtually nothing you find can truely satisfy your meaning of existance? -
Is it u need something new in ur life, to take up ur time n attention???
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You're probably plateauing...reached the ridgeline and everything seems to just move downwards away from you, and no matter where you go, the view doesn't seem to be changing.... and perhaps you r asking yourself that after all that climbing... this is it?? AND is this gonna be the view I'm going to have to live with for the rest of....??
That will make anyone weary...
... Hmmm maybe you need some new challenges. A change of mountain. Go on a mission trip or something. And when you come back, you might realise that there are some new flora fauna that you never noticed earlier... like bioluminiscent mushrooms.
Humm. -
you need to find out what God has for you to do in this life, only then will you find fulfillment and contentment. Everything we do outside of Yahweh is empty. Like what King Solomon said vanity vanit, all is vanity... or the other way, meaningless, meaningless...Originally posted by Honeybunz:feeling moody again...
so sian -
repost
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hey bunz, wanna go get certified to scuba dive with us?
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Something very new, sounds fun.Originally posted by the Bear:hey bunz, wanna go get certified to scuba dive with us?
But I so sian, dun feel interested leh. Sorry.
That's what I mean lor... nothing new, I feel bored. Got something new, I also feel sian to try out. Dunno why, dunno how. -
c'mon.. we're not ready yet either..
it'll be fun!
gotta wait for shro-cat to finish her sailing thing, and gotta wait until i get medically certified safe for diving...
so, do take your time to think about it.. when we're ready and get our acts together, i'll buzz youOriginally posted by Honeybunz:Something very new, sounds fun.
But I so sian, dun feel interested leh. Sorry.
That's what I mean lor... nothing new, I feel bored. Got something new, I also feel sian to try out. Dunno why, dunno how.