should I tell to her, i like her?
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sign........y we all face this problem!Originally posted by pete98:
I am having the same problem too except its not my friend but her co-worker whos falling for her. I know that cos she told me the guy been saying things like'do you have BF, what type of guys you like, etc' to her. I am not sure why she telling all this but the information is definately affecting me. Sometime the urge to confess my feelings to her is so bad that I feel like bursting but I still can't do it. We only know each other for less than a year but we are already quite close. She like a soulmate to me so I scared to lose for if I confess. Sigh!
being guys is so tough!
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Think you should leave it to the girl to make the choice. I know its abit cheesy, but you should follow what you think is right and be strong enough to face the worst. Not to say that all the advice in the forum is bad or anything, but we don't know your situation as well as you do, the only ones with the complete picture is you and the girl, not us... So take all the advice with a pinch of salt.
As for whether to tell her the blantant truth or proceed with caution, I suggest you take into consideration what kind of person she is before making the "correct" choice... -
I think the part about chemistry is very important. Sometimes, people seek consolation in the thought that time can change mindsets and ignite sparks. But this is like clutching to a sinking ship if u wait and wait and wait without any favourable response.
I am not suggesting u jump the gun but rather be assertive. From what I have experienced and observed it is a good sign if you ask the girl out for a movie, bowling session, makan session or even TCSS and she obliges WILLINGLY. U can first start with group outings and then when u are really familar, ask her out on a one to one session. Be direct and sincere in your invitation to the outing, don't beat about the bush.
Do not initiate contact or attempt to hold her hand in the first solo outing. Go out maybe up to five or even ten times before doing so. If u can have at least one a week solo sessions or even better twice a week meet-ups, it is a good start.
One more good indication is when it comes to footing the bill. I am talking about DECENT girls here not orportunists. Hope u can differentiate between the two. Decent girls if they are not prepared to start something serious with u will normally suggest to go dutch...ie u pay your bill, she pays her's. If on the other hand she allows u to pay the bill, it can be a good sign too.
If on the other hand, she is always hesistant or appears to have a full schedule everytime u ask her out.......just keep her as a friend, she is NOT interested.
As for me, I was and still am a car fanatic or lunatic (according to some of my pals) who used to prefer hearing turbos screaming rather that be involved in a conversation with the opposite sex. Of course pretty girls were attractive but I found cars more appealing. Until I met my Wifey. We had our first solo session by the second month of knowing each other. We got attached in the fourth month and the rest is history. I surprised her with flowers, cards (made by myself), searched for and bought her favourite song albums which were very hard to find.
All I can say is she understands me and can predict me better than my own mother
We also never had to struggle to find something to talk about, it was so spontaneous. These are fundamental qualities you look for in a soul mate.
The important thing is find out what she likes through your chatting sessions. Then go surprise her...find out what flowers she likes, what she likes to eat, the music she like to listen to, then work your magic. Girls really like guys who can cook The key is you have to do all this urself, cook her favourite dish for her, sent her her favourite flowers, make elaborate cards for her urself,take her to her favourite restaurant. Do try to add the element of surprise, it really adds spice to the relationship.
Girls really treasure the thing that are handmade by their boyfriends, especially if it is an elaborate item And if you learn to cook for her sake, she will be bowled over 
I remember my first attempt at stir-fried ocean trout...it looked more like scrambled fish to me but tasted okay. She was so happy with the effort she ate the whole lot of it....of course since then it has improved
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go open up to her.. is better to do so den to regret in future.. but make sure u clarify tt no matter wat hap this frenship will not end.. u know la.. some pple aviod u like a plague after u confessed n they do not reciprocate.. if both parties r open-minded.. it should not go horribly wrong.. good luck pal..
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Originally posted by saab95:
I think the part about chemistry is very important. Sometimes, people seek consolation in the thought that time can change mindsets and ignite sparks. But this is like clutching to a sinking ship if u wait and wait and wait without any favourable response.
I am not suggesting u jump the gun but rather be assertive. From what I have experienced and observed it is a good sign if you ask the girl out for a movie, bowling session, makan session or even TCSS and she obliges [b]WILLINGLY. U can first start with group outings and then when u are really familar, ask her out on a one to one session. Be direct and sincere in your invitation to the outing, don't beat about the bush.
Do not initiate contact or attempt to hold her hand in the first solo outing. Go out maybe up to five or even ten times before doing so. If u can have at least one a week solo sessions or even better twice a week meet-ups, it is a good start.
One more good indication is when it comes to footing the bill. I am talking about DECENT girls here not orportunists. Hope u can differentiate between the two. Decent girls if they are not prepared to start something serious with u will normally suggest to go dutch...ie u pay your bill, she pays her's. If on the other hand she allows u to pay the bill, it can be a good sign too.
If on the other hand, she is always hesistant or appears to have a full schedule everytime u ask her out.......just keep her as a friend, she is NOT interested.
As for me, I was and still am a car fanatic or lunatic (according to some of my pals) who used to prefer hearing turbos screaming rather that be involved in a conversation with the opposite sex. Of course pretty girls were attractive but I found cars more appealing. Until I met my Wifey. We had our first solo session by the second month of knowing each other. We got attached in the fourth month and the rest is history. I surprised her with flowers, cards (made by myself), searched for and bought her favourite song albums which were very hard to find.
All I can say is she understands me and can predict me better than my own mother We also never had to struggle to find something to talk about, it was so spontaneous. These are fundamental qualities you look for in a soul mate.
The important thing is find out what she likes through your chatting sessions. Then go surprise her...find out what flowers she likes, what she likes to eat, the music she like to listen to, then work your magic. Girls really like guys who can cook The key is you have to do all this urself, cook her favourite dish for her, sent her her favourite flowers, make elaborate cards for her urself,take her to her favourite restaurant. Do try to add the element of surprise, it really adds spice to the relationship.
Girls really treasure the thing that are handmade by their boyfriends, especially if it is an elaborate item And if you learn to cook for her sake, she will be bowled over I remember my first attempt at stir-fried ocean trout...it looked more like scrambled fish to me but tasted okay. She was so happy with the effort she ate the whole lot of it....of course since then it has improved
Good luck dude.
Thank Pal! I think I know what to do now!
hope it a happy begining!
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hi guys, finally took up my courage n tell her my feeling.........
guess what?
she say she will consider mi to b her bf depending how I woo her................
so the part is how to woo her............. another tough assigment!!!!! -
Originally posted by man4nth:hi guys, finally took up my courage n tell her my feeling.........
guess what?
she say she will consider mi to b her bf depending how I woo her................
so the part is how to woo her............. another tough assigment!!!!!
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dont hesitate...whip out your dick & show it to her asap...she'll appreciate you for it...Originally posted by man4nth:hi guys, finally took up my courage n tell her my feeling.........
guess what?
she say she will consider mi to b her bf depending how I woo her................
so the part is how to woo her............. another tough assigment!!!!! -
you shudda wooed her alittle
made her more interested in you
before confessing anything openly
now you blab your heart out
and ball is totally in her court
"you want me? impress me lor."
you think she'll make this easy for u?
doesn't this put you in a disadvantage?Originally posted by man4nth:hi guys, finally took up my courage n tell her my feeling.........
guess what?
she say she will consider mi to b her bf depending how I woo her................
so the part is how to woo her............. another tough assigment!!!!! -
_Aaron_ you're not that old you know...Originally posted by _Aaron_:It definately sounds like you're quite young. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship at your age?(Which i'm guessing 14-15).
In another post i have stated that i have almost lost 2 close female friends because i told them i like them. I misinterpreted their signs, even though i was really close to them.
Now ask yourself this, are you sure she likes you?
If yes, then good for you, ask her out to be your gf.
If no, you're not certain, then bring her out for a few more dates and then prepare roses, surprise her together with the question.
Another matter is your friend. If your friend likes her too, yea it can get a bit messy, but if he's really a good friend, or one worth keeping, he will not ignore you because of this, (unless of course, he really likes her more than you.)
Its all a matter of choice. But the most important thing is to ascertain her feelings. Don't misinterpret!
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Well, I think its obvious that she's interested in you if she asks you to woo her...Originally posted by man4nth:hi guys, finally took up my courage n tell her my feeling.........
guess what?
she say she will consider mi to b her bf depending how I woo her................
so the part is how to woo her............. another tough assigment!!!!!
So just think of ways...
ie
1) Bring her out to a nice romantic dinner <- your chance to impress her with flowers and a nice dinner...
2) Take a walk and go for a drink at Mt Faber <- your chance to hold hands while walking
3) Send her flowers or a nice jewelry <- your chance to show that you can pamper her
4) Show her your room <- your chance to show that you can have hot steamy sex
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There are days when i feel 27, and there are days when i feel 63.Originally posted by :_Aaron_ you're not that old you know...
I don't see the days where i feel my age anymore.
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haiz.. all the good signs you were describing were almost exactly what is currently happening between us.. the only difference being that she rejected me before!Originally posted by saab95:Do not initiate contact or attempt to hold her hand in the first solo outing. Go out maybe up to five or even ten times before doing so. If u can have at least one a week solo sessions or even better twice a week meet-ups, it is a good start.
One more good indication is when it comes to footing the bill. I am talking about DECENT girls here not orportunists. Hope u can differentiate between the two. Decent girls if they are not prepared to start something serious with u will normally suggest to go dutch...ie u pay your bill, she pays her's. If on the other hand she allows u to pay the bill, it can be a good sign too.
If on the other hand, she is always hesistant or appears to have a full schedule everytime u ask her out.......just keep her as a friend, she is NOT interested.
i do not know if i'm just clutching at straws. as much as i respect her decisions, somewhere in my heart i do hope i will be able to change her mind...
how i wish all the good signs you were mentioning all apply to me!!! -
What is TCSS?Originally posted by saab95:I am not suggesting u jump the gun but rather be assertive. From what I have experienced and observed it is a good sign if you ask the girl out for a movie, bowling session, makan session or even TCSS
TANGO CANTO SING SONG?
THE CAN SUPER SOUP?
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At the age of 20? You feel that you have done everything what a 60 year has gone thru? Thats what i'm implying...Originally posted by _Aaron_:There are days when i feel 27, and there are days when i feel 63.
I don't see the days where i feel my age anymore.
Does that reply your comment?
You can be mature... but doesn't mean you're old...
You can't feel age but age is usually seen not felt, unless you're 90 years old and you really can't see or walk too well... -
Talk Cock Sing Song?Originally posted by :What is TCSS?
TANGO CANTO SING SONG?
THE CAN SUPER SOUP? -
You dunch really TCSS with a girl...Originally posted by _Aaron_:Talk Cock Sing Song?
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I'm just one of them guys who think too much.Originally posted by :At the age of 20? You feel that you have done everything what a 60 year has gone thru? Thats what i'm implying...
You can be mature... but doesn't mean you're old...
You can't feel age but age is usually seen not felt, unless you're 90 years old and you really can't see or walk too well...
Left on my own, i think about lots of stuff.
One little incident may be quickly forgotten, but many lessons can be learnt...
Of course i have not gone through what a 60 year old has... but sometimes i just feel so old.
Maybe i lack friends that share the same hobbies as me, yea, maybe that's it. -
i hv arrange to go for dinner this weekend.................
she has no objection................
hope all well, end well -
Read it into it...As to why she's telling all about the other guy....For now just relax dude..If the guy proposes...u will now about it too....Originally posted by pete98: I am having the same problem too except its not my friend but her co-worker whos falling for her. I know that cos she told me the guy been saying things like'do you have BF, what type of guys you like, etc' to her. I am not sure why she telling all this but the information is definately affecting me. Sometime the urge to confess my feelings to her is so bad that I feel like bursting but I still can't do it. We only know each other for less than a year but we are already quite close. She like a soulmate to me so I scared to lose for if I confess. Sigh! -
Ermmm I know you are trying to help but your comments are rather vague. I can't really understand and conclude the meaning of your words except for the 'For now just relax dude' part. But thanks for the effortOriginally posted by MunnaBhai_MBBS:Read it into it...As to why she's telling all about the other guy....For now just relax dude..If the guy proposes...u will now about it too.... -
Hey manz .. Remember to smile more, appreciate her small actions more, think before you act, play safe, listen more, laugh more, think more positive, more eye contact, and be yourself. All this is for a first date? you may ask, well, research shows that the first impression of a person is a great impact. And a person forms a first impression of a person within 5 minutes. Since now she is viewing you as a potential candidate as her LIFE partner, she would review her first impression, show her that you are responsible, sociable, communicable, perhaps more, and most importantly, lovable =) Cherish her presence, OH yeahz. Trust, must ALWAYS be there in any relationship. And lastly, enjoy the date =)
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its either u tell her that u like her n ask her to b ur gf,if she reject u then get on wif ur life.if she accept u,then congrats.s for ur best friend,tell him u like that gal too.tell him u wan a fair competition,but no bad blood if either one of u lose.if he is ur good friend,he will agree.rem dun play dirty n oso haf the tos of let the gal to ur best friend it will haf side effects.