should I tell to her, i like her?
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Hi everyone,
Had some problem which i do not know how to solve or deal with it?
it begin like that................
i gt to know this gal th'u a friend of mine, i know my friend like her a lot but nvr tell her his feeling..........den recently i n this gal begin to chat on MSN and icq a lot and oso start to go out for dinner n movie etc..... although we nvr hold hand hug or do anything.......we chat a lot on relationship issue.......... we know each other quite well like that....she noe what i like , i oso know what kind of person she is n my feeling for her begin to grow.....The problem here is should I tell her I like her and can we become stead?
if she agree, i afraid i will lose my friend oso because my friend told mi he like her too?
what should i do???? -
It definately sounds like you're quite young. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship at your age?(Which i'm guessing 14-15).Originally posted by man4nth:Hi everyone,
Had some problem which i do not know how to solve or deal with it?
it begin like that................
i gt to know this gal th'u a friend of mine, i know my friend like her a lot but nvr tell her his feeling..........den recently i n this gal begin to chat on MSN and icq a lot and oso start to go out for dinner n movie etc..... although we nvr hold hand hug or do anything.......we chat a lot on relationship issue.......... we know each other quite well like that....she noe what i like , i oso know what kind of person she is n my feeling for her begin to grow.....The problem here is should I tell her I like her and can we become stead?
if she agree, i afraid i will lose my friend oso because my friend told mi he like her too?
what should i do????
In another post i have stated that i have almost lost 2 close female friends because i told them i like them. I misinterpreted their signs, even though i was really close to them.
Now ask yourself this, are you sure she likes you?
If yes, then good for you, ask her out to be your gf.
If no, you're not certain, then bring her out for a few more dates and then prepare roses, surprise her together with the question.
Another matter is your friend. If your friend likes her too, yea it can get a bit messy, but if he's really a good friend, or one worth keeping, he will not ignore you because of this, (unless of course, he really likes her more than you.)
Its all a matter of choice. But the most important thing is to ascertain her feelings. Don't misinterpret!
Good luck man4nth. -
well....i m 22 while the gal is 20......still consider young I think!!!
it just that i do not know how to bring out the matter to her!!!
she did hint to mi that she is looking for a bf who can eventually become her husband! well i hope i can become her husband 1 day!!!!
so do i go out n tell her to become my stead directly?
this is my 1 time that y a bit blur!!!! -
Just be prepared to either get accepted.
or get rejected.
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tell her directly to become my stead???
or hint to her??? -
direct.Originally posted by man4nth:tell her directly to become my stead???
or hint to her??? -
come on be a man! dun be a ahgua!!
if dun act now..later she will be snatched by ur friend, and u can only cry in ur pillow instead of exercising with her in the nite!! -
u can always try indirect means...
for example:
try to grab her hand gently while walking together... if she co-operates, its a sure sign then! bingo to u!
but if she avoids, then u noe that she is uncomfortable and do not want u to have anything BGR to do wif her.. learn to read signs
also, another tip: try this towards the end of ur outing... u dont want to ruin the rest of ur day if she retreats her hand
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I guess most of us face tis problem ba...
Hmmm.. just go wif ur feelings ba...
regrading ur friend part... i guess he will be able to take it if he is a gentleman ba... =X but abit hard also lah...
see u choose between friendship or courtship liao...
Gd luck dude..
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I've never believe in giving up when 2 people truly love each other... If that's really the case and you've done nothing despicable, I see nothing for you to be ashame of...? Your friend should be more understanding to that...? Would he rather one of you have the girl or none of you have her then makes him feel much better...?Originally posted by man4nth:well....i m 22 while the gal is 20......still consider young I think!!!
it just that i do not know how to bring out the matter to her!!!
she did hint to mi that she is looking for a bf who can eventually become her husband! well i hope i can become her husband 1 day!!!!
so do i go out n tell her to become my stead directly?
this is my 1 time that y a bit blur!!!!
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'Stead'? I thought only kids use that term.Originally posted by man4nth:Hi everyone,
Had some problem which i do not know how to solve or deal with it?
it begin like that................
i gt to know this gal th'u a friend of mine, i know my friend like her a lot but nvr tell her his feeling..........den recently i n this gal begin to chat on MSN and icq a lot and oso start to go out for dinner n movie etc..... although we nvr hold hand hug or do anything.......we chat a lot on relationship issue.......... we know each other quite well like that....she noe what i like , i oso know what kind of person she is n my feeling for her begin to grow.....The problem here is should I tell her I like her and can we become stead?
if she agree, i afraid i will lose my friend oso because my friend told mi he like her too?
what should i do????
I seriously suggest that you DON'T pop the question. Many guys make the mistake of popping the question too early, and end up regretting. Guys like me.
Like I've mentioned before, girls only want to be good friends with SOME guys. But you might be thinking, "good friends will eventually become lovers, right?" Wrong. That only happens in TV dramas. To girls, good friends are good friends. There's no 'sparks', or attraction at all.
To put it in simple terms, oranges(boyfriend-type) attract girls. Apples(good friend-type) do not. Why? Simply because they're different.
In most cases(90%), the guy thinks that he is an orange, but in fact he is an APPLE.
I'm not going to teach you how to become an apple, because it's too complicated for you right now. So stick to the old advice....Let her know you better first! When she gets to know your personality and character better, she'll be able to make a decision on whether you'll make a good boyfriend. That will increase your chances, but the decision is still hers.
Hmm so your friend told you that he likes her too. What are you planning to do? Give up on the girl and let your friend woo her instead? You'll be a great fool if you do that. -
how confident? do it when u feel its rite....Originally posted by man4nth:Hi everyone,
Had some problem which i do not know how to solve or deal with it?
it begin like that................
i gt to know this gal th'u a friend of mine, i know my friend like her a lot but nvr tell her his feeling..........den recently i n this gal begin to chat on MSN and icq a lot and oso start to go out for dinner n movie etc..... although we nvr hold hand hug or do anything.......we chat a lot on relationship issue.......... we know each other quite well like that....she noe what i like , i oso know what kind of person she is n my feeling for her begin to grow.....The problem here is should I tell her I like her and can we become stead?
if she agree, i afraid i will lose my friend oso because my friend told mi he like her too?
what should i do???? -
Be brave and not stupid.
If you are confident enough to face rejection, just ask her when the mood is right. Don't ask her when she's emotionally upset or being too busy. Don't say I didn't warn you. Ask only when you feel +ve vibes.
IF you are not so confident, just con't to be close to her.. con't building your closeness, till, well.. either you buay tahan, or simple confident to face rejection.
If you are confident and brave enough to face rejection, what else are you afraid to tell her??
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how about:
"hey girl, i really like you and would like to go on a date with you.. wanna watch that movie and have dinner this saturday?"
and go with that? -
hi guy! thank for all ur advises!!!
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well we often do that!!!Originally posted by the Bear:how about:
"hey girl, i really like you and would like to go on a date with you.. wanna watch that movie and have dinner this saturday?"
and go with that?
almost meet every weekend for dinner n movie...........
but still not those BG type relationship yet! -
i dun think ut method work lor cause both of us driving!!!!Originally posted by RETARDED_MORON:u can always try indirect means...
for example:
try to grab her hand gently while walking together... if she co-operates, its a sure sign then! bingo to u! but if she avoids, then u noe that she is uncomfortable and do not want u to have anything BGR to do wif her.. learn to read signs
also, another tip: try this towards the end of ur outing... u dont want to ruin the rest of ur day if she retreats her hand
end of the outing all go to invidual car n drvie home no choice to hold hand!!! -
Ya I Agree With This,Except For The 'and u can only cry in ur pillow instead of exercising with her in the nite!' Well.. If u Dun Tell That 'Someone' u Love Her/Him, How Would They Know? And u See, Girls Are Often The Shy Ones... And u Wan Them To Make The First Move? Fat Hope~ Only For Some Exceptional Cases..Originally posted by usck:come on be a man! dun be a ahgua!! if dun act now..later she will be snatched by ur friend, and u can only cry in ur pillow instead of exercising with her in the nite!! -
I don't think you know her well enough to just declare your feelings. Think you should show affection by mebbe celebrating her birthday, bring her out to a romantic christmas dinner, or give her a gift, ... then can gauge if she welcomes your attention - before you tell her direct.
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well she has just agree to hv dinner with mi this weekend!!!!Originally posted by choco B:I don't think you know her well enough to just declare your feelings. Think you should show affection by mebbe celebrating her birthday, bring her out to a romantic christmas dinner, or give her a gift, ... then can gauge if she welcomes your attention - before you tell her direct.
dun noe whether to bring it up to her asking her to b my stead!!!
so far she nvr reject my invitation for movie n dinner...
dun noe she treat mi as a ordinary friend or ..........????????
so confuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111
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I hv these problem too.....happen recently!!!!Originally posted by man4nth:Hi everyone,
Had some problem which i do not know how to solve or deal with it?
it begin like that................
i gt to know this gal th'u a friend of mine, i know my friend like her a lot but nvr tell her his feeling..........den recently i n this gal begin to chat on MSN and icq a lot and oso start to go out for dinner n movie etc..... although we nvr hold hand hug or do anything.......we chat a lot on relationship issue.......... we know each other quite well like that....she noe what i like , i oso know what kind of person she is n my feeling for her begin to grow.....The problem here is should I tell her I like her and can we become stead?
if she agree, i afraid i will lose my friend oso because my friend told mi he like her too?
what should i do????
although i do not hv friend that like her as u do....
till now i hv not express my interest in her cause i afraid of even losing her as a friend!!!! -
haha.. i'm sort of in the same situation.Originally posted by man4nth:well she has just agree to hv dinner with mi this weekend!!!!
dun noe whether to bring it up to her asking her to b my stead!!!
so far she nvr reject my invitation for movie n dinner...
dun noe she treat mi as a ordinary friend or ..........????????
so confuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111
But our perception of things are different... i'm just going to try and create more attraction in the meantime. You could try asking her though, if you do it right she may just agree.. -
Maybe that's the problem - she hasn't showed enough positive signs that she likes you back
Turn up the heat this weekend. Bring her someplace nice & romantic. Touch or hold her hands now and then (but not be octopus la). If she clings on, that's a good sign!
Give compliments, & hints like you really like spending time with her, etc. and if she feels the same wayOriginally posted by man4nth:well she has just agree to hv dinner with mi this weekend!!!!
dun noe whether to bring it up to her asking her to b my stead!!!
so far she nvr reject my invitation for movie n dinner...
dun noe she treat mi as a ordinary friend or ..........????????
so confuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111 -
thk i will do thatOriginally posted by choco B:Maybe that's the problem - she hasn't showed enough positive signs that she likes you back
Turn up the heat this weekend. Bring her someplace nice & romantic. Touch or hold her hands now and then (but not be octopus la). If she clings on, that's a good sign!
Give compliments, & hints like you really like spending time with her, etc. and if she feels the same way -
I am having the same problem too except its not my friend but her co-worker whos falling for her. I know that cos she told me the guy been saying things like'do you have BF, what type of guys you like, etc' to her. I am not sure why she telling all this but the information is definately affecting me. Sometime the urge to confess my feelings to her is so bad that I feel like bursting but I still can't do it. We only know each other for less than a year but we are already quite close. She like a soulmate to me so I scared to lose for if I confess. Sigh!